An Attempt

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It defined love. yes, the very simplest of things defined it. Love is the transition from the scared eyed baby when whirled to the unforgettable giggle he slips. Love is the transition from anticipating someone's next words to buffering their next words. Love is the transition from asking somebody's food choice to pre-ordering their meal. Love is the transition from trying to change someone for our comfort to accepting them as they are. Love is the transition from getting conscious when he is around to breaking down in front of him in your worst.


Yes, simple, isn't it? Stirred in the inherited stupid version of bollywood or hollywood, we all go find our prince charming, or the beautiful princess we always have dreamt of. We all set up standards for all the normal humans to perform very un-human (if you know what i mean), which the other party assumes to be their expectations. And when one doesn't come up to that mind set because of their own personal standards, the chaos starts. The never ending cycle of dumping and being dumped starts. Because one person was not up to your standards you ruin the other one and the other one goes around and does the same. In your free time check out this pattern, at first you will feel you can solve their problem and everything can be fixed but the more you'll study the more you'll come to know that "it's really complicated". 

Its not like I m blaming films for this. No, god no. They are good at what they are doing. I have absolutely no issues with movies. Its us. Its the people that ruin the fun of the movie. Nobody told you to take Edward Cullen seriously and search for your own version of Robert Pattinson or nobody told you that there is definitely a Simran alive for the inner Raj you are nurturing. Just don't. And even if you do, do not expect it to happen. Personally I get a weird kick from all these kind of movies. I, to, believe in this stuff but I don't go around and dig Jai in guys for the Aditi that resides in me.



This rule actually applies to every relationship no matter what it is. Mother sets expectations from children according to how she behaved in her childhood excluding the generation gap. Father sets up expectations from children according to how happy he keeps his family. Friends count your bad conduct towards them and their good heart to you, overlooking the reality. Even with the non living things, you expect! The rain shouldn't be harsh, the teddy should be soft like you expected, pizza should be round! I mean yes you love those things only if they are the way you have imagined or wanted. That is not love! Stop using the expression love! You like those things that way. 

Love is about acceptance. Love is about seeing or doing one thing and never getting bored of it no matter how old, monotonous or different it gets. Love is going through all the transition and still be the constant in one another's life. Love is finding peace in continuing that one constant in your life no matter if it reaches your standards or not. 

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